Dear long lost friends,
I cannot apologize for the time I am spending with my children, nor should you. They are our whole world right now. But I want to thank you for being patient with me while I figure out this new normal.
The truth is, I miss you. I miss our weekend-long parties back in college. I miss our long talks and hundreds of daily text messages. But we both are growing up and have our own lives and those who rely on us, which is an amazing job. But we all know when we add one thing to our lives, something else has to give. And in this case, it’s the time we used to spend together.
In the meantime, here’s what I need. I need to know that even if we go months without seeing each other or talking, it’s going to be ok. I need to know that we will be able to pick back up the next time we randomly run into each other. I need to know that it won’t be that awkward talk about what we are doing with our lives, but that we can laugh, gossip and reminisce the way we always did.
I need to know that you are really only a “Snapchat message” away. That we can stay up to date on our kids’ happenings, even if we aren’t always physically able to make it work. I need to you know that even if I don’t send a response, I am laughing, or thinking about how adorable and hilarious your kids are. I might just be busy, but please know I want to see ALL the snaps!
I need you to know that it’s okay for you to make new friends. It’s natural to gravitate towards other moms who have kids the same age. I promise not to be jealous, but let’s promise not to forget the friendship we once had either.
I need to know that someday we will plan a getaway. Or just dinner. It might not be next week, but maybe next year. But know that I still think about you and enjoy your company, even though we both are living these crazy lives as mothers.
I also need to know that you will be there for me in the worst of times–just like I will be for you. I want to know that I could call you or text you at any point of the day and I know you’ll respond with your wise advice or smart-ass comments to help me feel better. And you bet you can expect the same from me.
But overall, I need you to know, you will always be my friend. I don’t want us to drift so far that we never connect again in the future–no matter how many years or miles separate us. Let’s promise be there for each other even when it’s not convenient for us to physically be together, in the hopes that someday we can again spend that precious time together when our kids are too good for us.
xoxo-
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